You have decided to formalise your desire to spend the rest of your lives together. How exciting! At this point as well as venues, food, dresses, flowers etc. you need to decide how you wish to do this. Will you…
- Go to a church/temple etc and have a faith-based wedding ceremony?
- Go to the Register Office for a ten-minute legal contract signing ceremony?
- Go the Register Office and then back it up with a bespoke ceremony at a place of your choice?
I know which I’d choose, but I think I may be biased! It is important to repeat that any ceremony we devise is currently not legally binding in England, and you would have to go to the Registrar for the legal certification. Having said that your bespoke ceremony will be full of meaning, symbolism, ritual and memories.
Daisy Chain Weddings offer you the opportunity to get really creative. Our first meeting will mean we can get to know one another, I can find out what your vision is, and I can also offer some ideas concerning rituals that might fit in with your plans. I will also give you some guidelines about how the ceremony runs. You will need to think about your vows – Are you going to write your own or download them? I will leave you with a questionnaire which I would ask you to fill in on your own with and return it to me – this helps me get an individual viewpoint as well as talking to you together. It also helps to put the structure of the ceremony together. We will meet regularly during the writing process either face to face or via Skype and changes can be made as necessary. Only when you are both happy with that copy will I create the final script and I will give you up to three free copies after the ceremony.
Examples of traditional ritual you can explore using include – this is just a few.
Handfasting – An ancient Celtic tradition involving symbolically binding your hands together and blessing the union.
Unity Ceremonies – These can be done using candles, sand or salt and involve the couple each contributing to make one whole. One candle is lit using two smaller ones, different coloured sands are combined into one vessel to make a pattern or salt from two pouches are combined into one – the idea being that the marriage will only break up when one of the couple can take out the grains of sand they put in.
Welsh Lovespoon Ceremony – Each partner offering food to the other from an elaborately and symbolically carved wooden spoon.
Loving Cup or Quaich Ceremony – Each partner offers the other a drink from a two handled cup with appropriate accompanying words.
Ring Warming Ceremony – This is a chance to involve your well-wishers. Before the ceremony the rings are passed around the congregation for them each to hold them in their hands, warm them, bless them and wish you well.
Alternatively, I can create a ritual based upon objects which are mutually important to you both. Most things I find, if researched deeply enough, can be found to have some kind of symbolism which can then be moulded into a ritual. Outdoors, indoors, in your garden at home, in a hospital, in a village hall or in a big posh hotel the ceremony is your demonstration of your love and commitment to one another. The ceremony I will provide and officiate at will reflect your personalities, loves and hopes for the future. For those wishing to reaffirm their love for one another and renew their vows the process will be just as rigorous as for a wedding and carry as much spiritual significance for you.